How To Use A Fleshlight
In this list, we’ll cover the basics and explore some ways you possibly haven’t tried before.
Let’s get to it.
First thing’s first.
What’s a Fleshlight?
This ingenious device was specifically designed to add boosted pleasure for men’s masturbation sessions.
It’s essentially a portable pussy (or ass, or mouth) that feels incredibly realistic and sometimes even better than the real thing, depending on your chosen sleeve texture.
The case could be either clear or opaque and it comes in a number of different sizes.
The most important thing to note about this case, aside from the fact that it’s made to look like a flashlight (hence the name) for discretion, is that is has two caps.
The cap in the front uncovers the opening of the Fleshlight and the other cap can be twisted off to adjust the intensity of the suction.
With the staggering amount of sleeves to choose from, you will never have to be bored.
These sleeves pretty much dictate how good your masturbation experience is going to be.
Some are more challenging that others and fit any fetish you could be into.
As an added bonus, Interactive Life Forms, the maker of the Fleshlight, have come up with line of units modeled after your favorite porn stars and cam girls for that personal touch.
So you’ve joined the millions of satisfied Fleshlight owners all over the world and don’t know the first thing about how to use it or maybe you’ve been using it for quite some time and have run out of ideas on how to mix things up.
Well, don’t worry. I’ve got you covered.
Let’s say you’ve just taken your Fleshlight out of its packaging.
The first thing you need to do is remove the cardboard tube wedged inside the sleeve.
Don’t get too excited and stick your junk in there right away.
That’s an accident waiting to happen.
Now, with that out of the way, let’s get into prep.
Warm up the sleeve
If you’re going for a more realistic feel, then you’re going to want to warm up your sleeve to mimic the actual body temperature.
This isn’t really necessary and you don’t have to do it if you don’t feel like it, as the Fleshlight will likely warm up on its own as you use it.
That’s just how friction works.
But if you want to feel the warmth right off the bat, there are a number of ways you can do this.
This is especially good during those cold and lonely winter months when all you want to do is down a couple glasses of bourbon and stick your penis into something warm and comforting.
Sounds like a good time.
The sleeve warmer
ILF has come up with their very own patented sleeve warmer as a Fleshlight accessory.
It is lightweight, sleek and just as portable as its counterpart.
What’s cool about it is that it can be charged via USB cable, so you can hook it up to your laptop and never have to go through the hassle of buying batteries for it.
There is not much to be said about the device itself because it’s really just rod attached to a sturdy base and it heats up. There is not much to it, but it makes a world of difference.
You just slide your sleeve down onto the rod and it shouldn’t take more than five minutes for the warmer to make it nice and comfy.
But how warm are we talking here?
It can go up to 90 to 100 degrees Fahrenheit within five minutes, just the right temperature to make it feel like it’s a body.
According to the manual, it can reach up to 135 degrees, which I’m guessing is what it would feel like to have sex with someone with someone who has a high fever.
If that’s what you’re into, then whatever floats your boat.
That’s personally a little too warm for me, but it’s all about preference here.
Don’t be alarmed.
It’s never going to feel like your penis is on fire and it’s a definitely a step up from thrusting into something cold and slick.
That sensation reminds me a little too much of my more experimental days when I would masturbate with hollowed-out fruit and tube socks.
The old-fashioned way
What ILF has always suggested even way before they came up with their warmer is that you soak the sleeve in warm water anywhere from 10 to 15 minutes.
This has always done the trick, but it can be a bit messy and it takes considerably longer.
Take note: DO NOT submerge your sleeve in boiling water or pop it in the microwave. This will most definitely damage it and that’s about 80 bucks down the drain.
Bundle of joy
This was my personal favorite before getting the sleeve warmer. I would wrap my sleeve in a blanket or towel and put it on my radiator for a few minutes.
This was great because I didn’t want it to get wet except with lube and when I’m cleaning it out with water. Just always remember to wrap it something before you do this. Putting it on a heater directly will also damage it.
If you’ve got one of those electrical warming blankets or a heating pad, those can be good too.
This is very, very important. You never want to skip this step if you want to avoid a nasty case of chaffing. Because of the Fleshlight’s secret patented combination of rubber polymers, they advise that you should only use water-based lubes.
This is a simple enough instruction to follow, to assure that your sleeve maintains its freshness and integrity.
Again, this is all about preference. You might want to play around with different kinds of lube to get best masturbation experience. You could experiment with thin, thick, warming or cooling lubricants.
I personally like to switch it up from time to time because I don’t want the same experience every single time I pleasure myself.
It also adds to the realism bit because I noticed that girls don’t exactly get wet the same way.
This is just a step that you should never be skipped because it protects your junk, so you can be sure that you won’t feel any kind of pain, discomfort or, worse, infections.
What’s your style?
Here is where we can get creative. Men have always been imaginative when it comes to their masturbation techniques from humping sculptures to couch cushions. That certainly doesn’t end with the Fleshlight.
Here is where you can experiment with different positions and play out your favorite fantasies. If you can picture it, you can most likely do it.
Going old school
The fleshlight is meant as a masturbation aid, so of course the mind automatically goes to just using it with your hand.
Even though this is the most rudimentary way of using it, this is always going to better than just jacking it with your bare hand.
Just find the most comfortable position, maybe even put on right porn clip and you’re good to go.
You can do this on your back or hold it firmly in front of you so you can slide yourself in. This is great if you want to have full control of how it’s angled.
If you have a willing wife or girlfriend, it’s even better if someone else does this for you.
A trick up your sleeve
If the previous method has gotten old for you, one way to step it up is by losing the case and playing with just the sleeve.
You will lose the suction feature because it’s the case that does that, but you’ll be able to adjust the pressure manually by squeezing your sleeve in the right spots.
If you want to get the most out of your chosen texture, it’s good to explore it this way.
Now, ILF came up with their own “renewing powder,” which is actually just pure cornstarch. It’s recommended that you powder your sleeve every once in a while to maintain the softness and silky texture it had right out of the box.
The reason I bring this up is because it’s advisable to dust your sleeve slightly before you use it to avoid slippage.
If you’re average sized or maybe even a little smaller, then you won’t get the full use of out the diverse range of textures ILF has come up with.
Sometimes, they reserve the really intense configurations for the more endowed and put these crazy textures right at the very end of the sleeve, which you’re not going to get to reach if you’re under 7 inches.
Well, this is perfect workaround to that. Simply enter your sleeve from the other end to get in on the action. You could switch up with textures for a more varied experience.
If you like to watch
ILF released the LaunchPAD and it delighted users everywhere because it took into account the obvious: if you’re using the Fleshlight, then you’re most likely watching porn.
It’s a rubber case that fits a 3rd or 4th generation iPad with Velcro straps at the base to fasten and secure your Fleshlight. Since it’s made of rubber, it’s very easy to grip.
This is perfect for POV videos because this will better immerse you in the fantasy.
If you’re in a long distance relationship
One of the major drawbacks of, say, being halfway across the world from your loved one is that you’re not going to get any action.
But with the recent innovations, cybersex has become a thing that a lot of couples resort to in order to maintain their intimacy.
The LaunchPAD will work for some good old fashioned Skype sex, but if you want to take it to the next level, Kiiroo has partnered with Fleshlight to create the Onyx and the Pearl.
All you need is a reliable internet connection and you can sync these two devices up to provide real time stimulation for both parties.
The amazing part about this setup is that anything one of you does, the other can feel. So if she takes in the Pearl in her pussy, your Onyx will tighten.
This is undeniably better than just having phone sex and playing with yourself with. Knowing that it’s a shared experienced helps to reestablish the connection with your special someone.
If you want to go hands-free
Sometimes, in order to really get into the fantasy, you have to “forget” that you’re jerking yourself off.
The same concept applies to watching movies. You know that what you’re watching is made up, but your brain automatically suspends your belief. This way, you’ll be able to relate to the characters and be interested in the plot as if it was real.
Something like this can be achieved if you take your hands out of the equation. Here are some ways you can have a totally hands-free experience.
These are great ways to practice if you want to incorporate your Fleshlight into your sex life with a partner because it frees up your hands to do other naughty things.
On a mission mount by Liberator
I know it’s intimidating to get a piece of furniture that is specifically designed for masturbation, but you have the cash to spare, this is a great addition to any bedroom.
It’s pretty sizable, but it’s very light as it’s made with very firm foam. The one end is slanted and there is a hole. This is where your Fleshlight is meant to go into. It fits very snugly in there and you don’t have to worry about it falling out.
Actually, it takes some force to get it in there.
The angle pretty much makes it feel like you’re having sex in the missionary position. The good thing about this mount is that it’s extremely comfortable. You can rest your elbows in the front and pump away.
To use it, all you have to do is position yourself on top of the mount. Its width is only 9 inches, so it should fit nicely between your legs.
Of course at this point, it should be all lubed up. You should be able to easily slide yourself in.
Now, you can imagine yourself in all sorts of scenarios. You could use a mouth orifice paired with a texture that’s meant to simulate a blowjob and pretend that you’re going to town on someone’s face.
If you get bored with this, you can prop it on its side, spoon it and enter from the side.
Because it’s made of faux leather, cleanup is a breeze. All you need is some all-purpose surface cleaner and a cloth to take care of your messes.
But perhaps the best thing about having one of these is that you can play out that threesome you’ve always wanted.
This only goes to show that using a Fleshlight could not only be a solo activity, but it could spice things up with a willing partner.
The shower mount
This mount will stick onto any smooth surface, preferably tiles. That’s why they marketed this for some shower fun. You can also even mount this on glass if you want to stick it onto your shower door.
It’s easy to adjust the angle, so you can get in any safe and comfortable position that you’d like.
Just like with regular shower sex, it can be quite the balancing act. You have to careful not to slip, so non-slip mats and grips will help a lot.
The most important thing to remember when using your Fleshlight in the shower, make sure you still use water-based lube.
The SuperSkin (the amazing material the Fleshlight sleeves are made of) don’t do well with anything else.
I realize that since you’re going to be in a wet environment, you’d think oil would be the perfect lubrication, but this is really not a good idea. It will ruin your sleeve.
DO NOT use soap. Your penis will not be happy about it either.
So stick to something water-based even though you’ll probably have to use a lot of it.
This is another collaboration with Kiiroo and probably my favorite Fleshlight accessory. You would think that this one is for the lazy, but it requires quite a bit of prep.
First, you have to make sure that the device is fully charged and you might want to have a lineup of raunchy videos on Pornhub ready.
Setting up the device itself is pretty simple. Just attach your Fleshlight by doing a twisting clockwise motion and wait until you hear a nice little click. That means you’re good to go.
Lube it up and slide on in. Here is the fun part. With the Launch, there are two modes: manual and interactive.
If you want to have full control, then go the manual route. This allows you to set how fast and how long the strokes are. The controls are intuitive and makes for a very relaxed experience.
I have got to tell you that this thing is a beast. Because it’s a machine, it’ll never tire (that is, until its battery runs out).
The interactive mode, on the other hand, takes the porn-watching experience to the next level. Pornhub collated their own special content specifically for this device, so you won’t have to worry about running out of new material.
What’s cool about this is that the movement of the Launch is synced very accurately with these videos. Whatever is happening in the video, you will feel in real life perfectly timed along with it.
Taking it a step further, this device is also VR ready. I don’t know about you, but when I first heard about this device, I thought we’d arrived in the future.
Use things you have in the house
It doesn’t matter if you can’t afford these Fleshlights accessories just yet. You can use things that are already lying around in your home.
Another use for your bed
This is one of the sturdier options. All you have to do is lift your mattress up slightly and wedge your Fleshlight in between that and the box spring or mattress base.
Kneel in front of your bed and thrust in and out to your heart’s content.
This is perfect for replicating doggy-style sex. And since your bed is a heavy piece of furniture, you don’t have to worry about your Fleshlight going askew. You can plow the living daylight out it and it will stay put.
Another great thing about this method is that you can put your laptop, tablet, magazine or whatever it is you’re into right in front of you for easy access.
The pillow, towel and couch cushion method
An even simpler way to use your Fleshlight is to just stick it in between two pillows and fasten them together with a belt to secure your setup. This is great if you want to try all sorts of positions, particularly the cowgirl. Just hug the pillows while on your back and thrust upwards.
You can also wrap a bath towel around it for some height (the angle is way too low if you’re just going to set it on the bed). This doesn’t take any time at all.
This one is a classic: stick it in between couch cushions. That is if you have the luxury of being able to masturbate in your living room without having to worry if someone is going to walk in on you.
On your desk
The only thing you will need for this is some heavy duty duct tape. Just secure your Fleshlight in place and be careful not to get cum on your keyboard.
The advantage to this is that your computer is probably on your desk, right? You can watch your favorite NSFW videos as you use it.
If you think this is lame and you’re pretty handy anyway, take a trip to the hardware store or look around on Amazon and buy a durable clamp. After this, you can pretty much clamp it onto anything else.
Take your penis for a walk
This is as straightforward as it can get. Just grab any shoe, unlace it and shove your Fleshlight in there. Tighten the laces to secure it place, lube up, and you’re good to go.
Since the shoe is planted on the floor, this can take a lot of thrusting. As far as angles go, this is what feels most like having sex in the missionary position.
Honestly, this can be quite the workout, but I’m sure we can all agree that the payoff is worth it.
Get someone else to do it for you
If you can’t be bothered to do it yourself and if you’re lucky enough to have a willing partner, then get him/her to do it for you.
When most people think about the Fleshlight, they automatically think that it’s a solo activity. The truth is, this is just another one of those sex toys that you can bring into your bedroom to spice up your sex life with a partner.
Trust me, your partner will appreciate it because he/she will feel included in your fantasy.
This might just seem like an excuse to lay back and watch, but experimenting in the bedroom reinforces intimacy and brings the two (or more) of you closer.
This is also a chance to safely play out your ménage à trois fantasies. The portable pussy is a lot less threatening than an actual person.
If you don’t have anyone special in your life just yet, you could line up different Fleshlights, perhaps the pussy, ass and mouth options, and imagine the dream threesome you’ve had since you were 17.
Not for the faint-hearted
It sucks when you build up the tolerance for something as pleasurable as an orgasm, but the danger is real and it happens to the best of us.
You can easily retrain yourself and hold off on the masturbation for a while. The concept is very similar to intermittent fasting.
But if you absolutely have to come as frequently as you do now to de-stress or for whatever reason, these are the options for you.
The super sucker
If you’re all about suction, then this technique is perfect for you. Lose the case and get a mason jar. You want something big enough to house your sleeve, so it’s most ideal to use a 2-pint jar.
It’s crucial that you use glass, but just be extra careful. Glass shards and your penis are not a good mix and could lead to a disaster.
Now, the setup. It’s pretty straightforward. Just put the sleeve in the mason jar as if you were using the normal Fleshlight case.
Find a stiff straw and wedge it in between the rim of the jar and the Fleshlight orifice.
You can then lube it up and put your penis in. It’s important that you first penetration is done slowly. Once you’re all the way in, carefully slide the straw out. This creates pressure inside the jar.
Technique is key here. If you want something that will suck the living daylight out of you, just pull out as far as you can. This creates a vacuum.
If it ever gets too intense, just wiggle your finger where the straw used to be to introduce some air inside.
ILF released their own vibrating option for those who need that extra stimulation. So if you’re all about sticking to the Fleshlight brand, the Vibro is a cool thing to get.
Out of the box, you are given three vibrating battery operated pellets that you can slip into the sleeve, which create a wonderful vibration that will blow your mind.
Pair it with a challenging sleeve and you might not ever want to leave your bedroom.
If you want to go off-brand, these “bullet” vibrators are available pretty much anywhere. You can just scour Amazon and find the right size and intensity. This will definitely save you a couple of dollars too.
The outside of the sleeve have long ridges. All you have to do is line up the bullets in between these flaps.
You can choose how many bullets you want to put in there depending on how intense you want the vibration to be.
There is a good solution if you think you’re desensitized to a normal Fleshlight and need that extra zing in order to cum.
These are just some of the more popular ways to use your Fleshlight. But remember, the only limit is your imagination.
It’s not a surprise that masturbation continues to be a way for men to exercise their creativity. Just stay safe, stay clean, and have fun!
Hi! I’m Rick. I’ve been masturbating for…well…as long as I can remember, and I’ve had strong opinions about how I do it the whole time. I love sex, but I also love getting value for money. I’ve been writing product reviews for 12 years now, and I’m here to help you find products that really suit you. In my spare time I love hiking, cooking, and building websites.