Ultimate Fleshlight Guide: Exploring the Ins and Outs (Pun Intended) of the Famed Pocket Pussy
The Fleshlight is one of man’s more ingenious inventions since the wheel.
It seriously boggles my mind why it took so long, considering that we’ve been pretty much sticking it in anything from couch cushions to hollowed-out fruit.
If you’ve been living under a rock or having a very faithful love affair with good old righty (or lefty) and have no clue what I’m talking about, let me fill you in on what should be in your bedside drawer.
What Is A Fleshlight?
The fleshlight looks what it sounds like – a flashlight.
It was designed by a guy named Steve Shubin, but honestly, it sure sounds like a bunch of dudes came up with this idea during an epic weed sesh.
This man deserves a medal.
It looks innocent enough and wouldn’t warrant a second glance, so any wives or moms snooping around wouldn’t even have a clue.
The Fleshlight is as simple as it can get.
It’s still pretty analog, but boy does it feel so much better than just jerking off with your hand.
It’s an encased sleeve with caps you twist off from both ends.
The wider end reveals the opening where you put your wang into and the other end adjusts the suction.
This is pretty great if you’re looking to up your stamina.
I mean, let’s face it. Some dudes last longer than others and it’s really all about preference here.
The manufacturer won’t really disclose what the sleeve is made of because it’s patented.
They call it the Superskin (and I must say it’s aptly named), which they say is a special blend of rubber polymers and mineral oil for that more realistic feel.
It’s non-toxic and doesn’t have that weird chemical smell so it doesn’t really take you away from the fantasy if you can get over the fact that you’re banging a portable pussy.
Knockoffs are usually made of medical-grade silicone or latex, which can be a hit or miss because some of them can be too hard and can smell a little weird.
You’d know about it if you dabbled in those blow up dolls that were all the rage in the ‘80s.
They feel exactly how you would imagine it – like fucking an inflatable pool.
Have It Your Way
There are also many different kinds of configurations for the sleeve.
You can buy these separately, so you don’t have to have a suspicious number of “flashlights” lying around, looking like you’ve got the whole town covered for the next blackout.
These configurations have quirky, clever names like the Texas Tornado or the Bump N Grind.
You can also customize your sleeve however way you want, but they’re all made of the same soft, lifelike material.
And the folks over Interactive Life Forms don’t discriminate.
Your little buddy could be any size and it would fit perfectly into any sleeve.
You can’t say that about all women, if you know what I mean.
If you’ve never heard about this, I don’t where you’ve been.
The Fleshlight pretty much took the States by storm when it was first released in the late ‘90s.
Men had a more sophisticated option other than jacking it with their hand with the introduction of this nifty invention.
I don’t know why they didn’t come out with sooner.
Maybe the technology just wasn’t there.
But it had to be done and I think all the guys are happier for it.
But why even get a Fleshlight?
So you fancy yourself a creative masturbator and don’t think you need this in your life?
Who knows? That may very well be the case.
But nothing feels as good as something that was specifically designed to give you pleasure.
They had meetings about this stuff.
Experiments were done.
Do you seriously think that this is just going to be as good as humping your mattress?
Here are some of the reasons why the Fleshlight is the greatest.
I honestly can’t contain my excitement about this.
You get what you want every single time
The first thing that ought to mention is that you have three choices right off the bat.
You can get the vaginal, anal or oral versions.
Hell, get all three.
So whatever it is your “thing” might be, there is something for you.
Granted, these orifices don’t look like the real thing.
They didn’t exactly make it look realistic and, honestly, I think most guys would prefer it that way.
It’s a little creepy to have a portable severed realistic-looking vagina in your room.
They really weren’t going for a visual experience and that’s fine.
The fun part is still up to your imagination or you could just go on good old reliable PornHub.
However, if you’re a real stickler for realism, then I’m happy to tell you that they’ve come up with a series of Fleshlights that are modeled after your favorite porn stars and cam girls.
They made a mold out of the girls’ parts and made the openings of their corresponding Fleshlight model look freakishly the same down to the last little flap or crevice.
So if you’ve wondered what a night (or several nights, for that matter) with Stoya or Tori Black would feel like, then this is just about as close as you can get to the real thing.
And since I’m guessing that no one is going to be involved in your masturbation sessions other than yourself, you can use jack it pretty much any time you want.
No one is going to say no.
It’s guaranteed to be safe
The Fleshlight is a pretty big, notable brand now.
That means a lot of people (including myself) swear by their products and the company takes people’s safety very seriously.
Of course, no one wants a lawsuit filed against them.
By going the classic route and getting the OG instead of the cheaper knockoffs, you will be assured that you are getting the best quality materials that feel the best, are very safe for your skin and are easy to clean.
You don’t want to stick your thing into anything cheap and poorly made.
Since this is a widely known commercial product, it has undergone and passed many different standardized tests to make sure no one wakes up with a strange rash.
It’s your little secret
It’s pretty obvious that since they made this thing as innocent-looking as possible, discreteness was one of their main concerns.
You don’t have to worry about being shipped a human-shaped package either.
I’m sure you don’t want the UPS guy to know how kinky you are.
This also won’t show up on your credit card bill as a blaring sex toy purchase.
They’ve got you covered. It will be all in a hush-hush and you definitely won’t get flack for this.
It’ll help if things are getting stale
Even though when we think Fleshlight, we automatically think solo, this doesn’t mean that you can’t bring this toy into the bedroom to spice things up with your partner.
Using sex toys with a partner and keeping things exciting by playing and discovering each other’s kinks and hidden pleasure spots would strengthen any relationship.
So you could make the argument that this isn’t such a selfish purchase.
Ladies, if you’re hesitant about getting your man a Fleshlight or just letting him get one for himself, I can assure you that this is no substitute for the real thing.
Nothing really beats the sensation of being with an actual person, so you should never be threatened by an object.
But with that said, it’s still pretty fun.
Believe me, he’ll get a kick out of it if you participate.
This will reassure him and make him feel that it’s safe to share his desires with you.
A lot of focus is given to the woman’s orgasm because it’s harder to achieve.
So if you’ve got a good guy on your arm, you probably get all the attention and all the cool new toys.
Adding a Fleshlight to the mix will let him know that his pleasure is important too.
Improving your stamina
Clearly, using a Fleshlight is nothing like doing it with another person apart from the sensation.
You could go at any pace you want. You can adjust the suction however way you want.
What I’m getting at is, this is all about your pleasure.
There is nothing and no one else to consider.
You can take your own sweet time and train yourself to last longer.
The fleshlight feels so good, you would want to prolong using it as much as possible.
Now, if you have trouble with premature ejaculation, this is a good way to practice.
If you’re good in bed, it’s always still good for edging.
You won’t believe how intense your orgasms can get when using this product.
Either way, it’s always good to up your endurance.
How do you use a Fleshlight?
The truth is, your imagination is the limit.
If you can picture it, you can do it.
But here are some of the more popular and basic techniques on how guys use the Fleshlight.
Make it wet
To simulate real sex as much as possible, you want to be all lubed up before you penetrate the sleeve.
Chafing in any sort of scenario is never a good feeling.
The unit comes with a couple of packets of sample lubes that they offer.
Some of these have a warming or cooling effect.
You’ll be able to try them out to see what you prefer.
Put some on your junk and inside the sleeve as well.
You could tease yourself by rubbing the tip of your penis against the opening.
Once you get hard, you’ll be able to slide right in easily.
Warm it up
Some guys like to heat up their sleeve before going to town on it.
I personally like to do this because it adds to the fantasy.
The sleeve pretty much warms up on its own as you keep thrusting into it.
That’s just how friction works.
But if you want it warm right away, there is a fairly simple solution to that.
Just dip the sleeve in warm water for 2-5 minutes and it’s good to go.
If you’re a fancy lad and have the cash to spare, ILF offers a sleeve warmer.
This is way faster than the warm water method and you can charge it via USB cable.
This is also guaranteed to not damage your Fleshlight at all.
It looks pretty sleek and is a great accessory to have.
Another interesting way I’ve found is wrapping the sleeve in a towel and putting it on my radiator.
This will take a bit more time, but it gets the job done.
Just make sure you wrap it in a towel first and don’t put it directly on there.
And never, never get any clever ideas about putting it in a microwave.
Positioning is key
Back to basics
The simplest way to use a Fleshlight is exactly the same way you usually jack off.
Only this time, you’ll be using the sleeve.
You could be on your back or sitting down, whatever works for you.
Then slide it up and down your shaft as you normally would.
This is my personal favorite.
I usually wedge my Fleshlight in between my mattress and the base of the bed.
I kneel down in front of it and thrust away.
This very much feels like you’re doing it doggy-style.
This way, it feels more like a simulation of the act itself and it doesn’t seem like I’m just masturbating.
You could also stick in between couch cushions, some pillows or even a sneaker.
Get on top of it and pleasure yourself missionary style.
If you want something more legit and don’t have to explain to anyone why you have sex furniture, there is a mount that is specially made for the Fleshlight for the best hands-free experience made by Liberator.
It fits perfectly between your legs and once you’ve inserted yourself in, you can rest your elbows on the front and thrust away.
If this gets boring, you could spoon it and slide yourself in from the side.
It’s lightweight and covered with pleather, so that means it’s easy to clean up and it’s not a pain to move it to any room you want.
And since it’s hands-free, your hands and mouth are free if you are going to want to pleasure someone else while you’re pleasuring yourself.
This is great for playing out a threesome fantasy with a partner.
Another option is to get a suction cup for the base of the Fleshlight.
You could stick it on a smooth surface like glass or tiles and play with it while you’re in the shower.
There is also something called the Launchpad, which is essentially a base for your iPad and Fleshlight.
It’s made of rubber so it’s easy to grip.
This is perfect if you’re watching POV videos for the extra realism or you’re just having good old fashioned Skype sex.
Some dudes take it to the next level by treating it as an attachment.
I really get a kick out of seeing these guys’ subtle innovations.
There are automatic milking machines that pump for you that could make it seem like you’re getting a blowjob or being ridden.
You could also make it so it’s spinning as you thrust in and out of it. Like I said before, if you can think it, you can make it happen.
So which one should I get?
Do you feel like you’re sold on this yet?
Well, selecting your Fleshlight is a little more complicated that coming up with your coffee order.
However, it’s much more fun and a lot more rewarding.
First thing’s first, you have got to ask yourself a couple of simple questions.
What’s your size?
Knowing (and admitting) the size of your penis is very important when it comes to selecting sleeves.
It’s also worth nothing whether your circumcised or not.
There would be no point in choosing a sleeve that varies all the way through if you’re not going to be able to reach it anyway.
Also, knowing your girth can save you a lot of discomfort.
You don’t want anything too tight because some men report to have bruising after having tried sticking it in a Fleshlight that’s not the right size.
What do you like?
You could be a pussy, mouth or ass man.
There are available options for all three.
It doesn’t matter much because this doesn’t affect the build of the insert.
You can definitely mix and match.
But it helps to keep the fantasy alive by pairing the outer part of the orifice with a sleeve that simulates that particular orifice.
Maybe you’d like lips for the added stimulation and a sleeve that mimics the throat texture.
How long do you last and would you like to improve?
I’m going to be real with you and confess that I struggled with premature ejaculation.
After about ten pumps, I already feel like I’m going to blow.
But after using the Fleshlight for quite a while now, my stamina has improved significantly.
I’ve tried textures that are crazier than the usual ridges in an actual vaginal canal and have slowly but surely trained myself to last longer.
Honestly, the concept I’ve applied here is very similar to the one I apply when working out.
After some time, you’ll find it easy to do multiple sets with a pair of weights.
This is how you know you’re ready for some heavier ones.
Similarly, when I feel that a relatively simpler texture is getting easy for me, I just replace it with a different one that’s tighter, has more bumps and ridges.
It’s a challenge I never get tired of overcoming and my girlfriend has definitely benefited from this too.
Do you have any geeky fetishes or have a thing for a popular porn star?
Again, this all boils down to preference.
It’s a nice extra bonus to be able to pick the opening of your Fleshlight, if you ask me.
This adds to its overall visual appeal. If you’ve ever had a fantasy with alien interspecies sex, there is a blue skin that is available.
Star Wars fans rejoice
. Now, you can bang the hot Twi’lek of your dreams.
They really considered what everyone might like.
If you’re into more futuristic stuff, you could go for the cyborg pussy.
Fancy getting a blowjob from a vampire?
There is a vampire mouth option available complete with fangs (they won’t hurt).
If that isn’t really your thing, you could choose from a number of porn stars from their Girls line.
These Fleshlights are molded out of their orifices with their signature on the side for a more personal touch.
Choosing the right texture
Okay, you’re ready to join the more satisfied population of men on the planet.
Good on you.
I’ve done my research (as far as jobs go, mine rules) and I’ll give you the lowdown on all the textures available right now.
For the rookie
You don’t want to get too carried away and overreach when it comes to your first Fleshlight.
You can just breeze through your Fleshlight journey.
You want to enjoy it.
So it’s best to start off with something milder and more similar to the real thing.
You can then level up from there once you get used to the feeling.
If you have more or less the average sized penis, here are the best choices for you.
The Mini Lotus
The mini lotus in uncomplicated and feels very much like the actual thing.
This is a great beginner model because it’s the easiest feeling to get used to.
This is also the perfect choice if you’re a bit on the shorter side.
There are four notches that are very close to the opening that feel incredibly lifelike.
The Kendra Sutherland Angel
You might be familiar with the hot, young, blonde bombshell, Kendra Sutherland.
This is modeled after her pussy.
The sleeve, however, is a different story.
I don’t know any woman who is built like that.
It might look a little crazy with all its different textures, but it really surprised me how realistic this one feels.
You’ll definitely feel the variety of ridges and twisted ribs in there, but it’s far from overwhelming and won’t make you cum as fast as you think.
The Teagan Presley Bulletproof
This sleeve looks innocuous enough, but it certainly doesn’t feel boring if you try it out.
In my opinion, this simulates anal sex the best.
The name seems like it would be a challenge and looking at it doesn’t really scream “gentle,” but you’d be surprised.
This is very cleverly designed as it simulates being massaged in a twisting motion.
Think very enthusiastic hand job, but with the softest hands ever.
For the purists
Maybe you’re a no-frills kind of guy and don’t want anything fancy or complicated.
I certainly thought like this when I was just first starting out. Why complicate something as simple as masturbation?
I’ve long changed by mind since then, but it’s good to get back to the basic and see how ILF earned their fans from all over the world.
While the more experienced users would probably say that this is the most lackluster out of all the products they offer, I think it’s worth knowing what the original feels like.
This is the one that created all the buzz in the first place.
It will get the job done and if you’re the type of guy who gets a little too excited just looking at the more complicated textures, this is the one you should get first.
This one doesn’t come with a case and your hand will still be in control of the tightness when jacking off. Think of it as an upgraded version of masturbating the usual way.
It’s transparent, so if seeing your penis getting milked gets you off, that’s a plus. They also include a drying rack for cleanup.
For blowjob lovers
Sometimes, getting a blowjob feels better for me than actually having sex.
I like the idea that the focus in entirely on me and I get to lay back and just enjoy the sensation.
But not all girls are dying to just go down on you, that’s a fact.
And there’s nothing worse than a half-hearted blowjob.
Here are my favorite models that mimic that little piece of heaven.
The Turbo Ignition
Hats off to the folks over at ILF.
They outdid themselves with this one.
They even made the opening to feel like lips around your penis.
As you slide in the “throat,” there is some resistance and gets tighter, which actually mimics deepthroating.
This is around time your girlfriend will start to gag if she’s even willing to do it.
The texture doesn’t even look remotely like an actual throat.
Not even close.
But man, it sure feels like the real thing.
You’re going to want to get this one if you want to know what it feels like to be sucked off by a master and one who doesn’t know how to say no and will swallow every single time.
If you want to take it a step further and get a totally hands-free experience, get the Launch.
Powered by Kiroo, this one is a fully automated piece of genius innovation.
I got a kick out of this one because it’s compatible with some VR porn clips that could be easily accessed on your favorite incognito websites.
Every movement of the hottest girls you see on the screen, you will feel.
I had to train a long time to even last 5 minutes.
Additionally, you can manually program the strokes however way you want.
You control how fast it is and how long you want the strokes to be.
This was dangerous for me. I never wanted to leave my room.
For the veterans
If you’re looking to improve your endurance or you just want the most mind-blowing orgasms ever, here are your options.
The Stamina Training Unit
This is perhaps the most redeeming out of all the Fleshlights if you’re going to have to explain yourself to a wife or girlfriend.
No woman is going to say no if your excuse is that you want to last longer in bed. I’ve got to applaud you for wanting to step your game up.
But if you have no one special in your life and just want to prolong and savor your masturbation sessions, this is a good for that reason too.
Simply put, this is the one that feels most like the vaginal canal. It’s very tight and can be quite the challenge for the one who get two pumps in and they’re done.
The technique to practicing how to hold off on cumming is to stop whenever you need to and go again.
This is not very possible if you’re having sex with a partner.
Most women will egg you on and don’t want you to stop.
With the STU, you can take your own sweet time.
Trust me, the more you hold off, the more intense your orgasms get (as I’m sure you’ve figured out by yourself).
The Stoya Destroya
I love Stoya.
She’s that dark-haired, snow white vixen with the smoldering eyes.
She’s not exactly the girl-next-door, but more like the mysterious librarian who you just know has some tricks up her sleeve when it comes to the bedroom.
She is known for her hardcore and fetish scenes and has formed quite the sizable fan base.
Honestly, the name lives up to the sleeve itself.
It is a destroyer.
There is an amazing variety of protrusions and ridges that will tickle and squeeze the living daylight out of you.
This is not one for the faint-hearted.
The Jenna Haze Obsession
If tightness is your thing, this is your best bet.
If you look at this texture, you can see that it has got a concentration of soft bristle-like nubs all throughout.
They are arranged at an optimal angle that offers the most resistance.
You barely have to adjust the suction on this one because it will literally suck you in.
You can also see the it gets more intense as you push further in.
If you can last more than 10 minutes with this one, I’d be thoroughly impressed.
This design was conceptualized with the least amount of BS.
It will get the job done, guaranteed.
The Nikki Benz Reign
You’ve got to a bit bigger than average to fully enjoy this one.
There are three chambers you can pump into that are divided by two very tight and narrow constrictions.
The first one is a simple crisscross.
This opens into the next chamber where there are rectangular bumps and this leads into the first constriction.
These two alone would make any guy blow, but of course, it doesn’t end there.
You get a ribbed texture that feels like anal sex and then it ends with the classic angled nubs.
If you’re longer than 7 inches, beyond these nubs, it just gets tighter.
This is the one that I haven’t quite gotten over and still go back to every once in a while.
If you like a challenge, then this one is for you.
The Adriana Chechik Next Level
This one is a doozy.
I mean it just looks insane.
The main chamber is just loaded with these tiny bumps.
Although it’s not the tightest, once you get passed that about 1.4 inches in, then you’ll feel the constriction.
The last chamber is where it’s at.
Again, 7-inchers or more are the only ones who can get to this part, so it’s very important to match the right textures with you penis size to get the best results.
This chamber is unique and houses two long strips along the walls of the sleeve.
Both of them have bumps that you’ll feel from all sides of your penis.
I’ve got to say that this is a strong finish.
One of the upsides of this texture is that it’s very easy to clean unlike most of the more intense sleeves.
It actually has a lot of space and is quicker to air dry.
The Dominika Butterfly
Dominika C is up there when it when it comes to my all-time favorite porn stars list.
Modeled after her beautiful pussy, this sleeve’s opening is not very difficult.
Especially if you’re particularly endowed girth-wise, the first chamber is a walk in the park.
But the second chamber is where it gets intense and it’s a challenge from there on.
It’s very narrow and the walls have been packed very tightly with soft nubs.
The last chamber is why this texture stands out for me.
It looks like a bunch of stacked rectangular bumps.
Even without pumping so much, the stimulation from these bumps against the head of your penis is sure to drive you wild.
What I like about this texture, apart from the distinct last chamber, is that it doesn’t look that intimidating.
It looks like it was designed with a lot of thought and it gives the user the right stimulation on the right spots.
Who says vibrators are only for women?
The Vibro comes with what they call “bullets” which you put batteries into and insert in the sleeve.
These create the most amazing vibrations to surely make you go overboard with pleasure.
If the other models are just not cutting it for you, then this one is surely worth the try.
For those who like to see all the action
I’m not sure why I’ve developed a liking for seeing my penis slide in and out of a Fleshlight and at this point, I don’t really care to know.
I’m just glad they included this option for us who are a little freakier.
The Fleshlight ICE
The ICE comes with three different openings called Lady, Butt and Pure.
The Lady and Butt are pretty self-explanatory, but the Pure is just a hole.
It’s perfect for the minimalist.
According to most reviews, this is the most highly-rated one.
Its main selling point is that it’s see-through, so you get the visual stimulation of watching yourself penetrate the device.
This is also built to accommodate even the bigger penises as it’s about 10 inches long.
It’s big and definitely not discrete.
The case can also house any sleeve you want, so you can replace it any time you want.
The sleeve is very soft like a firmer Jell-O.
The best thing about the ICE is the suction.
Gentlemen, this feels like being sucked off by lady with a vengeance.
I can’t really compare the texture of the ICE to anything else.
It doesn’t feel like vaginal, anal or oral sex.
It is truly exceptional and I can see why everyone is raving about it.
For the traveler
Most of these Fleshlights, even though innocent-looking enough, can be quite bulky and not exactly luggage-friendly.
And like any other sane person, you would want to avoid being held up by the TSA because they just needed to check out this “suspicious” item.
As the name implies, this is perfect for when you want to just stroke one out and pass out on your hotel bed.
It’s tiny and can easily fit in a bigger toiletries case and it’s very low-key.
No one would even bat an eye.
This not only comes in handy if you travel a lot.
This could also be good if you are living with roommates or you have a girlfriend who doesn’t like the idea of you jacking off with a toy.
Since it’s significantly smaller than a normal Fleshlight, it’s the easiest to clean too.
The Fleshlight Go Surge
The Fleshlight Go series is a line of Fleshlights designed to be smaller and, might I add, a little sleeker.
Since it’s more compact, you’ll also have the added bonus of having your junk look larger (if that matters to you).
If you want something easier to carry around and don’t want to compromise on sensation, go with the Surge option.
Last minute tips and my final word
If you’re still having trouble picking the right one, you could easily just customize your very own Fleshlight.
You can have options with every step from the case, the orifice and the sleeve.
I hope I’ve convinced you that this is something that you should own if you want to explore news ways to pleasure yourself.
There are very few things we can constantly enjoy in life, so we might as well make the best of it and get the right tools.
Hi! I’m Rick. I’ve been masturbating for…well…as long as I can remember, and I’ve had strong opinions about how I do it the whole time. I love sex, but I also love getting value for money. I’ve been writing product reviews for 12 years now, and I’m here to help you find products that really suit you. In my spare time I love hiking, cooking, and building websites.